Post by Laura Hull on May 4, 2017 18:08:59 GMT -8
Listen, Limit, Listen
The first listen step is to ask the child "what is wrong?" and then take in his or her reasons, wants and needs, and grievances. As the handout said, the child is upset and "needs to talk about
the upset she feels, if possible, to someone who isn’t upset too."
The limit step must be employed if the child either will not stop the off-track behavior or escalates the off-track behavior. Limiting can be removing the child from another child, holding the child, insisting that the child return something she has taken from others, or otherwise stating your reasonable expectation and accompanying it with physical assistance or protection of the child and other children or possessions when necessary.
The second listen step is letting the child vent feelings that result from the gentle but firm confrontation they experienced in the limit step. Allowing the child to cry, talk, or any other reaction lets her blow off steam rather than bottle it up. This will lead to more controlled reactions down the road.
The first listen step is to ask the child "what is wrong?" and then take in his or her reasons, wants and needs, and grievances. As the handout said, the child is upset and "needs to talk about
the upset she feels, if possible, to someone who isn’t upset too."
The limit step must be employed if the child either will not stop the off-track behavior or escalates the off-track behavior. Limiting can be removing the child from another child, holding the child, insisting that the child return something she has taken from others, or otherwise stating your reasonable expectation and accompanying it with physical assistance or protection of the child and other children or possessions when necessary.
The second listen step is letting the child vent feelings that result from the gentle but firm confrontation they experienced in the limit step. Allowing the child to cry, talk, or any other reaction lets her blow off steam rather than bottle it up. This will lead to more controlled reactions down the road.