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Post by Anders on Feb 28, 2017 17:08:08 GMT -8
When setting rules, one should be sure that the set of rules corresponds to the child's developmental stage. If a rule states that children must sit and be quiet when they are in a stage where they are loud and active, then the rule is unreasonable. Rules must be developmentally appropriate, and cannot be demeaning, damaging, or humiliating in any way.
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Post by Gale Coleman on May 21, 2017 3:24:33 GMT -8
Yes, in setting rules, they should correspond to the child's developmental stage.
Children 18 mos. to 3, this age they are very active and move back and forth between wanting to be independent and wanting the security. One moment they will be negative and use their favorite word no, as a way to express their power and show that they have their own opinions and the next moment they will be wanting love and attention. They become frustrated easily, and their frequent inability to communicate their thoughts, complete tasks on their own, and have things their own way can turn into tantrums which are an expression of frustration.
With ages 4 to 5 you can help children accomplish the tasks by setting rules, like following through with appropriate consequences to teach about cause and effect and to teach children to be accountable for their choices. Allowing them to make decisions about things that impact them so they gain a sense of control over their lives.
With the older ages of 6 to 11, at this developmental stage children ask a lot of questions as they gather information about the world and how it works. They are also eager to learn new skills, and social skills. They are interested in rules and why there are rule., and they might test these rules, disagree with them, break them, or try to set them as they learn to make the rules their own. They use their more mature reasoning abilities to understand the reasons why the rules exist and to differentiate between wants and needs.
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